The death of a loved one can be a difficult time. As we mourn, we turn to the Lord for comfort and the hope of eternal life in Heaven. We want to help you know that the Lord is with you and your family during your grieving.
When your loved one dies, the funeral director is the one who will help you schedule the calling hours, funeral Mass, and burial. Once you begin this with the funeral director, we will meet with the family to select funeral readings and music and to discuss your loved ones life.
In thinking of your own funeral, just as it is possible to pre-plan your funeral arrangements with a funeral home, you can also pre-select the readings and music for your own funeral. Please contact June Sherman or Fr. Jeff to discuss this at the parish office (315-331-6753).
For readings, you will need to select one Old Testament reading, one New Testament reading, and one Gospel reading:
A family member or friend is welcome to read the Old and New Testament readings. It can be the same person or two different people. If no one in the family or a friend wishes to proclaim the readings, June Sherman, our Pastoral Associate, is available to do this. If a family member or friend is proclaiming a reading, Fr. Jeff will call them to come forward by their first name at the appropriate time.
For music, we ask you to select four hymns from the list below, one from each section.
The next item to think about in planning is who will bring up the gifts of bread and wine. Generally, two people are chosen to do this, but if you tell us ahead of time, it can be three or four. After the Prayers of the Faithful are completed, Fr. Jeff will invite everyone to be seated and then invite the family to bring up the gifts. They will be on a table in front of the first pew. Those bringing up the gifts will come to the table, pick up the gifts, and walk a few steps to Fr. Jeff to hand him the gifts.
You might also consider someone offering some “Words of Remembrance.” This should be one person (this one person can include thoughts of others) and not to exceed 5-6 minutes and must be typewritten. These words at church are meant to reflect the deceased life of faith. These words should speak of how they lived their faith, inspired us and deepened our faith through his or her life on earth.
Here is a funeral planning sheet that includes all the information we need for the funeral. If you will be meeting with us before the funeral, you do not have to have the funeral planning sheet completed but it can help if you complete what you are sure of.
St. Michael’s is happy to offer you a lunch following the funeral mass and burial (providing our hall is available). A team from our parish will prepare a lunch reception for your family and guests, which will be served in the Church Hall. We will need an approximate number of guests that you may expect and we will take care of the rest. If you are interested in having a reception in the church hall, please ask when you first talk to us.